I miss being a kid.
Remember the days when life was so simple?
Mom and Dad cooked our meals, did our laundry, organized our days and helped us make decisions. We could sleep in late, lounge around home, watch TV or hang out with friends. We had very little responsibilities with exception of a few household chores.
I really miss the family gatherings ~ when my 9 aunts and uncles on my Mom side or my 6 aunts and uncles on my dad’s side would get together for events like weddings, holidays or family picnics. Heck, and even all the times the families would visit back and forth and invite each other over for dinner parties. I miss hanging out with my 100 first cousins, my 50 second cousins and my 25 third cousins. It was so much fun.
(Yes, I come from a BIG Italian family.)
Nowadays, everyone is so busy. Everyone is doing their own thing. They’re focus is solely on their immediate family. Extra-curricular activities consume any free time a family has to spend together. We are so wrapped up in placing our kids in activity after activity, we have no time left to spend just doing the family stuff that most of us grew up doing.
No time. It’s today’s excuse for everything.
“What are you guys doing next weekend?”
“Well, Jimmy has a hockey tournament, Sally has a dance competition, it’s my Dad’s birthday party and on Sunday, we have our niece’s engagement party.
(This pattern repeats itself if you even dare ask someone their schedule for the following weekend.)
Life was so much simpler 30 years ago. Kids were not so obsessively placed in hundreds of activities other than the extra-curricular sports they were involved in at school. People spent more time with family and made time to spend with friends. We saw cousins, aunts, uncles, grandma and grandpa’s way more often and knew what was going on in their lives. Many, many memories were made from good ol’ fashion extended family fun.
I miss that fun.
These days, I see most of my cousins at either a family wedding or a funeral. No joke. Weddings and ,thank goodness, funerals don’t happen very often. So maybe once a year, if we’re lucky, we happen to all be together in one place. If it were not for Facebook, all contact with most of my cousins would be completely lost. It’s sad.
It is getting harder and harder these days for people to stay connected with each because no one seems to ever have the time.
Time. Something so simple and fixed.
Is it really that we don’t have the time or is it more that we don’t want to make the time? We so often blame time as if it’s this random, uncontrollable thing when, in fact, it is us who is to blame. We make our own choices.
Cherish your family and friends peeps …
…when all is lost and gone, they are the people who will be there to help you pick up the pieces no matter what predicament you find yourself in.
The same can be said for friends.