Today, I’m super excited to have Elena from Mommy Is In Time Out as my guest feature.
Elena is a teacher by day and mommy, wife & author of her blog by night. You can follow this Detroit mom’s adventures and mishaps in mommydom, coupledom and familydom at the following places …
We’re taking a break from the blogging and social media theme today. Instead, Elena is going to talk about something a little different.
Before I start this post, I wanted to mention something. After this past week with my husband being out of town, I have the utmost respect for single parents. I always have, but it is definitely amplified after you spend a few days on your own. I tip my hat, t-shirt and pants off to all of you.
I never liked it when my husband used to travel for work, even before kids. I don’t like to sleep in a house by myself, which is why even before living with my husband, I always had roommates.
But now, since we have kids, I knew it would be even more stressful for me.
First, there would be no husband to send out, while I hide under the covers, to check on a strange noise in the kitchen at 2am.
Second, I knew I would be the one in solely charge of not only my normal duties, but also his typical list around the house.
When he left for the airport, I considered chasing his car down the street, begging him not to leave.
I chose against that option, only due to the fact he was leaving our home at 3:30am on a Sunday morning for an early flight. Otherwise, I wouldn’t have put it past myself.
The whole week prior, I came up with a list of things that I needed to accomplish in order to (1) make sure everything would stay organized and run smoothly in his absence, (2) ensure that I wouldn’t be pulling my hair out by day 2 and (3) calm my fears of the things that go bump in the night so I could actually get some sleep.
If you happen to relate to any of those items, here are my tips:
1. Stock the house with everything you will need during the day, so you’re not schlepping the kids to the store in their pajama’s past bedtime. Trust me, tantrums ensue at that point.
2. Make a list of things that your spouse takes care of and be sure to add them into your daily routine. For example, I put a sticky note on our bathroom mirror that read “Feed the cat or he may possibly attack you in your sleep!”
3. Keep anything that you feel will protect you while you’re sleeping under your pillow. For me, it’s my iPhone and Lanagan’s lightsaber. It’s the Mom-Star-Wars-Apple-Technology combo. Nobody gets past that in the middle of the night.
4. Have your children sleep with you in your bed. Really, at some point, my boys need to start earning their keep and protect their mommy. I fully believe there is safety in numbers.
5. Plan things outside of the house right before bedtime. A fun activity + a lot of running around = 2 little boys sound asleep by 7:30pm. Then, grab that wine from task item #1.
6. Sleep with all the lights on. Yes, I was very bad for the planet this week. And, yes, I was blinded by the lights whenever I woke up at 3am. But, I did feel safer knowing that someone wasn’t going to startle me. At least in the dark they weren’t. I really showed them.
7. Make up meals ahead of time. The mess in my kitchen rivaled my kids playroom after I prepared meals for the week on Sunday, but it was definitely worth it to take that stress out of the weeknights. It gave us more time to snuggle on the couch and watch Sprout, since I love me some Goodnight Show with Nina.
After 4 nights away, I have decided that my husband won’t be traveling again until 2016. In all seriousness, everything did go pretty smoothly. However, I will be going on a mommy’s night out Thursday night. Anyone want to join?
What are your best tips for when your spouse is traveling?