A long time ago, I wrote a post that I shared over at Jaime’s blog, Chosen Chaos for her weekly meme If I Could Turn Back Time.
I just found it the other day, read it and laughed. I want to share it with you today as part of Bianca from Bits of Bee‘s #QuotableBits meme. I tweaked it a bit and added some more details to spice it up. I even added one of my favourite quotes to go along with it.
Hope you like it.
It’s a letter I wrote to my 18 year-old self.
Happy Birthday! You just turned 18.
You look great by the way.
It’s me writing you; you’re 42 year-old self.
Pretty freaky, I know. Don’t be alarmed. I’m writing you with good intention. Being that I’m your future self, I want to share with you a few things so pay attention because you might learn something.
First of all, congratulations as you successfully made it through high school without any scars. I know you loved high school. You are a sweet person who gets along with everyone. You’re very likable and have many friends. It is very rare for someone to dislike you. Am I right? As much as this is great, don’t let being nice get in the way of standing up for yourself and what you believe. Don’t let people push you around. There will be a few people in your future that will take advantage of your caring and pleasing personality. Stay true to who you are and don’t change for anyone.
You need to focus more on making yourself happy. What do you want? Figure it out and go for it. Don’t let anything or anyone hold you back. Your life is to be lived by you. Don’t let others try to live vicariously through you. Remember, when it comes down to it you have to live with the decisions you make so make sure you’re making decisions for you.
You need to shake off the shyness with the opposite sex. Don’t let being shy stop you from getting to know someone better. I know you’re not shy with guys normally unless you really like one of them. That one particular “summer” boy you always see? You’ll reunite with him in university. Give him a chance. Things aren’t always as they appear.
Don’t be SO cautious with everything in your life. It’s good to be responsible and make smart decisions but take some chances and try new things. Don’t be afraid-of anything or anyone. You will learn through doing, making mistakes and re-doing. It’s okay.
You will meet someone at 19 and think you’re in love. As much as I’d like to tell you to stay away from him, I will not. When you doubt yourself six months before you marry him, listen to yourself. I won’t tell you NOT to marry him because from that marriage you will be blessed with a daughter. You will be a single mother for a while but it will be a time in your life that will teach you what really makes you happy.
Live life and do all the things your big heart desires while you’re young and have no commitments or responsibilities. Travel as much as you can. You’ll see Italy for the first time next summer. Enjoy every moment of that 4 week adventure. Plan a back-packing trip through Europe with your friends and follow through with it. Do it now because you won’t do it once you settle down and have a family.
Spend time with your grandmas as much as you can. Although both of them will live to nearly 100 years old, you’ll feel you never got to spend enough time with them once they passed on. Talk to them more and ask them to share their life story with you. You’ll be amazed at what things you’ll learn about your parents.
Take skiing and snowboard lessons while you’re young and able to recover from the falls and the bruises. If you wait till you’re my age, you’ll kill yourself. Note: The man you end up marrying for life is a snowboarder. *wink*
Eat whatever you want but exercise regularly and don’t stop. You may be thin now but after having babies things change. Your mid-section will be your worst enemy.
Take your iron supplements the minute your doctor tells you your iron levels are low the first time! This is the key to your future health and if you take it seriously at 18, you’ll avoid problems with it in your 40’s.
As for meeting the real Mr. Right, that won’t happen until you hit your 30’s so, until then, have the time of your life. When you meet him for the first time and he smiles at you, you’ll know he’s the one.
Your true Mr. Right will make you happier than you’ve ever been in your life. ♥
Everything else, I leave up to you.
You’re a smart girl.
You’ll figure the rest out on your own.
Oh … but one more thing ~Accept everything about yourself – I mean everything. You are you and that is the beginning and the end – no apologies, no regrets. – Henry A. Kissinger